Sue, here!
I've been wondering where to start ...
the beginning? how we met? but I think I'll save that for later!
The question here is how have we stayed together for so long, especially today in the USA, when everything is disposable.
Now I know there are a lot of other couples out there, that have been married longer than us. They are to be applauded, but being our blog... I'll stick to our marriage.
You see I do find it amazing I'm still married. If I were him I would have left ME, a long time ago! Of course he doesn't believe that,
the proof ... I still wake up next to him every morning and for that I'm truly thankful and blessed.
That doesn't mean, I am the happiest woman in the world, married to Ken, being that he knows all that I need, because if he did we would never argue. Since we do have disagreements now and then and usually it is miscommunication or one spouse doesn't know what the other spouse wants makes me think that needs are a good starting point.
What are his or her needs? or wants? or dreams?
I think these are all things we need to know about our spouses....
So what do wives want from their husbands. To find out, I did what every respectable person does these days ... googled it!
I found ten things wives want ... and it bored me.
All but one!
number 5; "saying yes more often than no" ...
Wait a minute, wives want that? My husband wishes I would say yes more often than no!
Then I read what the author wrote. "Habitual negative responses are typical of men." WOW!
Ken is a retired State Trooper and the kids used to call him "Officer NO!" I always thought of the dad being more like the character of Robin Williams in "Mrs Doubtfire" or Bruce Willis in "The Story of Us"
... I just thought my husband was different and more police like.
When our kids were growing up, Ken wasn't all fun and games. He was balanced between good and evil; and did say "no" more often than not. Now he hardly ever says "no" ...
But this brings to mind ... What do I want?
Let's ask Ken.
Ken, what do you think I want?
He will post his response later today and I'll post tomorrow what I think are my most important needs, until then!
Keep Loving your spouse, you might be the only one that does!
Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work. ~Author Unknown
I love that quote. I am happy I'm becoming an oldywed!
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